I left the house today and as usual it's the normal Owambe gatherings you get to see every Saturdays in every area you enter, you also get to see different women wearing colorful asoebi's, big gele and most with very funny makeups you cant help but smile at.
Today marks a new beginning for a new couple and a sad day for the lady who is still counting days and mins to get her own mr right...mmm... funny enough, the kind of pressure that comes with this is so painful especially coming from your own parents. One starts to feel unwanted and end up comparing oneself with others forgetting everyone has his/her own appointed time.
Its not a new thing as to how African parents place Marriage, of course its sacred but it pays to be patient, avoid the rush, the pressure. Marriage is mostly seen as the only criteria to being a successful, complete woman and this ideology has made people make drastic decisions. It shouldn't be so at all, there is a big difference in being old enough for marriage and being mature for marriage and maturity is what is needed not the age.
I once heard a quote that goes like this "The magic is not in getting married, its in staying married", and sincerely this quote really needs to be pondered on. You are eventually going to be the one enjoying or suffering from the decisions you make at the end, those pushing you will still be the ones to laugh at you when all eventually turns sour due to the pressure to belong.
At the end all will fall in the right place, rushing in and out is of no use, better remain a spinster than a divorcee.
Everyone wants to experience a great wedding with the right one, be patient enough to exchange those vows with one who would continually love and cherish you forever.
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